No Assembly Required

You know that feeling you got as a kid, opening up your presents on Christmas morning or on your Birthday, and you ripped open the wrapping paper, and -oh my golly- there it was: the Snoopy Sno Cone Machine / Model Train set / Barbie's Dream House, in all its put-together glory in the big glossy photo on the side of the box. At the bottom, there they were, those three dreaded words sure to strike dread in the heart of any parent: "some assembly required." But in your sugar-induced euphoria, you gleefully ripped open the box, and out tumbled dozens of plastic pieces and tiny screws & bolts. And then watched in a fit of frustrated agony as it took your Mom or Dad and 2 uncles (one of whom was an engineering major in college) about four hours to put together. And then it still looked nothing like what was on the box? Remember that?
Well Transformation is nothing like that! In fact, there's no assembly required. Transformation can start right away! You don't need to wait till you are "better" or "all put-together." Where and as you are right now is not only enough, it is perfect.
All it takes to transform is the non-jugdgmental and non-preferential seeing of what is. The way your life is right now - across the board - including your job (or lack thereof), your relationship (or lack thereof), family, education, physcal condition, home, commute, internet connection (or lack thereof), wardrobe is perfect for you to experience Transformation.
That is something I had forgotten lately, and luckily was reminded by some pretty cool people I am proud to call my friends.

Save an Italian Wildlife Oasis

My lovely friend, Nicki, has posted an important anouncement on her delightful blog, The Life I Chose. She has alerted all those who love Positano and all those who want to help save rare and endagered wildlife (that should cover everyone on the planet...) to the threat to the magical wildlife preserve, Il Vallone Porto, located just outside Positano, Italy

Please sign the online petition to save the valley, http://www.firmiamo.it/positanovalloneporto.

Nicki writes:

This wonderful wild canyon is about to be destroyed. Somebody has decided that there could be a risk of flash floods in the valley and a proposal has been accepted to build a 24 metre long concrete dam through the valley, tearing down all the trees, woodland, plantlife and ancient pathways, and destroying many species of rare ferns, flora and creatures.This valley is under enviromental protection and it has already been scientifically proved that going ahead with these works would worsen the situation.A petition has been launched to try and stop these people from destroying one of the most beautiful natural areas left in Positano. Gianni has translated it into English and tonight we have corrected it and typed it up. I am posting it here below and I beg all of you, especially anybody who has ever been to Positano or cares about wildlife, natural beauty, rare little animals or magical woodland streams to please click on the link and sign the online petition to help us save the valley.

Please SIGN THE ONLINE PETITION!!

Life is a Reflection of You

Lately, I've been clearing up everything around me because, quite frankly, Life has been getting pretty messy around me. So I cleaned up my apartment and went through my closet and tidied up my desk at work. I also found time to clear out old emails and empty my spamboxes.

While doing so, I found this story in an email from my dear friend, Jorge. I don't know where it's from, so I am unable to credit it, but I really loved it because it helps me shatter certain excuses or illusions that I can hide behind when I am lazy. Some examples of these excuses are: "I have too much work", "It's not my fault", or "Yes, but it's because of________________."

Now you can fill in the blank with gravity, the greenhouse effect, shifting economic climates in developing countries, the low dollar exchange rate, my shoulder pain, lack of sleep. Either way, if I'm willing to tell the truth, it's all hooey. Plus, it begs the question of our really being the authors of our own lives. In reality, we actually have the Life we have created for ourselves.
Personal Responsibility... 1, Hapless Victim Theory... 0.

A son and his father were walking in the mountains.Suddenly, his son falls, hurts himself and screams: "AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!" To his surprise, he hears the voice repeating, somewhere in the mountain:"AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!"Curious, he yells: "Who are you?" He receives the answer: "Who are you?"Angered at the response, he screams: "Coward!"He receives the answer: "Coward!"He looks to his father and asks: "What's going on?"

The father smiles and says: "My son, pay attention." And then he screams to the mountain: "I admire you!" The voice answers: "I admire you!"Again the man screams: "You are a champion!" The voice answers: "You are a champion!"

The boy is surprised, but does not understand. Then the father explains: "People call this ECHO, but really this is LIFE. It gives you back everything you say or do. Our life is simply a reflection of our actions. If you want more love in the world, create more love in your heart. If you want more competence in your team, improve your competence. This relationship applies to everything, in all aspects of life; Life will give you back everything you have given to it."

Your Life is not a Coincidence. It's a Reflection of You!

Are We There Yet?

It's funny how pervasive a certain pattern of thought can be if left unexamined.
When I am not practicing awareness, I can quickly fall into a pattern of thinking that this moment isn't it, and instead wait for some future, shinier, better moment to come along.

But have you ever been stuck in traffic and really wanted to trade places with the silver car 4 cars ahead of you in the right lane? If only I could be where that car is, I could relax. What happens when you get there? Don't you just pick out another car that seems to be much further along than you are now? Or, have you ever greeted a friend's promotion or raise with the thought that all your worries would disappear if only your own boss would be equally magnanimous and insightful as to recognize your true worth? Has a cousin's engagement ever made you long for the day you could escape relationship limbo & enter the promised land of the affianced?

Well, living one's life as a constant race to get to what's around the next corner, or anywhere other than exactly whee you are in this moment, is a bit like driving around with a backseat squirming with 5 year-olds enagaged in a full-on concert performance of "Are we there yet? Are We there yet? Are we there yet?" ect... etc... It sure doesn't make for a very pleasant ride...
At best, it can leave you with a splitting headache. It can also make you miss a turn-off, or in other words, distract you from the true path you should be following.
But a distraction like that can cause fender benders - little bumps on your journey that will cause a ripple effect of debris that will need to be sorted out, taking more time and energy away from the things you are passionate about.

So answer that impatient chatter thus: Yup. We're there. We have arrived. We're here. We are right where we are supposed to be. The moment is perfect. So enjoy the scenery!

Quotes from Fr. Anthony de Mello

While checking out an interesting website called Soul Surgery (see previous post,) I came across this very insightful author, Fr. Anthony de Mello. The creator of of the blog, Carol L. Skolnick, reprinted some quotations from De Mello in her post. I thought they were so right on and consistent with living with well-being that I wanted to share some of them as well.

"It is a great mystery that though the human heart longs for Truth, in which alone it finds liberation and delight, the first reaction of human beings to Truth is one of hostility and fear!"

"There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them."

"As you identify less and less with the 'me.' you will be more at ease with everybody and with everything. Do you know why? Because you are no longer afraid of being hurt or not liked. You no longer desire to impress anyone. Can you imagine the relief when you don't have to impress anybody anymore? Oh, what a relief. Happiness at last!"

"Wisdom tends to grow in proportion to one's awareness of one's ignorance."

"Suffering points out that there is falsehood somewhere. Suffering occurs when you clash with reality. When your illusions clash with reality when your falsehoods clash with the truth, then you have suffering. Otherwise there is no suffering."

- Fr. Anthony de Mello

...And Elephants

I have always loved Elephants because I find them to be mystical creatures. They strike me as wise and connected to the Earth, their environment, and their ancestors.
That's what intitially attracted me to this interesting post on a blog called Soul Surgery by Carol L. Skolnick.

The Post is called Taming and Befriending the Elephant, and I thought this post, was very keen because it adressed our reluctance to deal with issues that we anticipate and fear will be painful or shameful to confront. The irony is that it is this fear itself that causes all the suffering, not the actual issue itself.
I can relate this to the first and third principles of Instantaneous Transformation. The first principle states that "What you resist, persists, grows stronger and dominates your life." Just like the fear of whatever we are resisting facing. The third principle shows us how to break free because "what you allow to be exactly as it is, without judging it, will complete itself." For more information on the principles of Instantaneous Transformation, check out the links on the right.

Taming and Befriending the Elephant
You've heard the expression, "There's an elephant in the living room"? That purported pachyderm represents something huge that everyone knows about, yet no one wants to call attention to, for fear of setting off a stampede.

Most of us learn to pretend there's no elephant when we're very small. Maybe one parent is alcoholic, or having an affair. Big sister throws up after dinner, little brother seems blue lately, but "it's just a phase kids go through." We don't talk about these things, especially outside the family; we fear we could rock the boat, and lose our "happy" home.

Later in life, there may be other issues we're reluctant to acknowledge. If we're trying to keep status quo, we can end up not simply with an elephant in the room, but with bats in the belfry.

"This marriage isn't working, but we have to stay together for the kids, and pretend everything is okay for their sake."

"I'm sure everyone is aware there's something amiss at the office, but I'm not going to be the whistle blower; we all need our paychecks."

"Yeah, I did notice the bruises. She said she fell downstairs. Well, of course she seemed shaken, wouldn't you?"

Why do we pretend something is okay when it isn't—or, in extreme cases, that it doesn't even exist? Some possibilities:

1. Shame. What a terrible thing for the elephant to be here!
2. We believe so strongly that the "elephant" shouldn't be there that we can't even recognize it as an elephant.
3. If we see something as a problem it means we're "negative" or "unevolved."
4. We believe that if we told the truth, we could hurt someone.
5. Acknowledging a problem might cost us something (money, a relationship, reputation, peace in the house).
6. Maybe if we wait long enough, the problem will go away by itself.

Meanwhile the elephant is taking up a great deal of space. It trumpets loudly, it eats a lot, it's creating a mess, and there's always the possibility that it could get loose, run rampant, and stomp or smother us to death. This elephant feeds, not on peanuts, but on fear. Eventually, it may grow so large that we can no longer pretend it's not in the way.

That's a good thing...because the best way to handle an elephant in the living room is not by ignoring it. If it won't leave by itself (and trust me, it won't as long as there's something for it to feed upon), it's far more effective to recognize the elephant as an elephant and proceed from there.

The elephant is no larger, wilder, or all-consuming than our thoughts about it.

©2008 by Carol L. Skolnick; all rights reserved.

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